Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people, and prefer to avoid negative ones?
This happens subconsciously, for we are affected by the aura which we choose to surround ourselves with. Negative thoughts, words and attitude drain us of energy and keep us from being in the present moment, creating negative moods and behaviours. Whilst with a positive atmosphere, we experience pleasant and happy feelings, a boost of energy, and motivation.
However, there are certainly times and situations that naturally result in negative feelings in the most cheerful of people. It is absolutely normal to experience “down” days, lack of motivation, sadness, or anxiety. But it’s the recurrence of these unpleasant feelings that affects our state of mind and our health.
It can often be hard to look at the half-full part of the glass of water, but as with any life skill, learning to become positive needs practice and effort, since attitude and thoughts do not change overnight.
You won’t be all smiles and laughs, seeing rainbows and unicorns everywhere you go, but here are simple things you can do which are just enough to give that bump into a more positive mindset.
Smile, the most obvious of them all, but try it, a bit more often. And when you’re feeling down, stand in front of a mirror and smile to yourself for a solid 10 seconds. You’ll be amazed how powerful this can be.
Meditate, the second line of defense against negative thoughts. It boosts your mental and physical health. It eases and rewires your brain, and helps you focus on what is present -what you have- instead of worrying about what is going to happen. Even a few minutes a day can make all the difference.
Surround yourself with positive people, this comes third, as it is an extrovert action. Talk to someone who won’t feed your negative thinking, who will get you out of your whirlpool with constructive yet loving feedback. Often building strong relationships with friends and family members enhances feelings of self-worth and better health.
Give, this may not be an obvious action to take, but taking the focus away from you and doing something nice for someone else makes you feel better instantly. You can help a stranger out with directions, take a photo of their whole group, or give them a hand carrying their bags. For as Robert Ingersoll puts it, “We rise by lifting others.”
Being positive doesn’t mean that you have to end up seeing the silver lining in every situation, but maybe just with a small nudge, you are able to enjoy life a little more each day.